I’m going to try and keep this post short and sweet and to the point because this is honestly such an important topic that need be said once and then applied to your own life! If you follow me on Instagram (@beyoutifully.healthy) or have kept up with my blogs, you know that confidence is something I struggle with (as many people do) and am constantly fighting to work on. It’s not easy, yet it is so important to love yourself and truly live confidently. And so that’s why today I’m just going to talk over, in my opinion, the number one self-confidence killer: social media.
Yes, you read that right. The one thing that connects us to family and friends, allows us to post great pictures of our memories, and helps us to discover new people, places, things, etc. is a confidence killer. Here’s why. As I mentioned people post great pictures on here, of who they’re with, where they are, what they’re doing. And how many times have you scrolled through some social media feed and felt jealous, unhappy with your life, upset at being left out, negative thoughts towards you and your body? I’m sure every single one of us has been through that before, and IT SUCKS. It really, truly sucks. One minute you’re feeling great about yourself or an experience you just had when suddenly you lose all that. Why? Because you saw someone else’s post, tweet, comment, picture, etc. that was “better” than you/yours.
This is silly for two reasons, 1) just because they have or did something, doesn’t take anything away from what you have or did and 2) social media is a highlight reel! What I mean by this is that people aren’t going to post about times when they’re feeling sad or lonely, they aren’t going to show their bodies on a bad body day when they feel bloated and sick, they’re aren’t going to write about missing out on opportunities with friends. NO! They’re going to write, post, show their best moments of themselves and their lives–the highlight reel. And while there is nothing wrong with that, there is something majorly wrong with the effects it has when you let someone else’s social post affect and dictate your life, attitude, mood, happiness, etc.
So go ahead and still use social media–it truly is a great connection and community source. But realize that what you see is people’s best and do not let yourself get caught up in the comparison, one-upping cycle feeling. There is plenty of happiness and success to go around so don’t let someone else’s success, happiness, good times ruin or downgrade yours! Realize that you have so much going for you in your life. Be grateful for what you DO have rather than feeling upset for what someone else has that you don’t. Understand that your worth, value, and beauty has nothing to do with the scale, your looks, or what others think. You are truly amazing and beautiful just the way you are (hey I should put that in a song), and once you start living like that you will realize that you have so much going for you and find true happiness.
When you are truly self-confident, nothing and no one can bring you down or affect you. And that is being Beyoutifully Healthy!