Just Start

I haven’t done a #MotivationalMonday in a while, so I don’t actually know what number it is, but it’s okay because I think the title “Just Start” will be plenty perfect for today’s post! I know a lot of people are scared to jump all-in, to just start from where they are and start doing what they love, want, etc. They think that they need this elaborate plan, or countless fancy resources, when in reality, only ONE thing is needed: yourself–okay and maybe your desire. You just have to start.

I think this quote perfectly sums up the equation for success–however you may define that for yourself.  Let me break it down.

Start where you are. In order to get where you want to be, the only place you can start is right where you are. It doesn’t make sense to spend time trying to get to a better or different place, because you’re just wasting time, energy, and resources going from that “new” place to where you want to be. By trying to become better first, you’re going to start heading there anyway so might as well commit from the start and go on, full-speed ahead!

Use what you have. Most resources are limited, you must do what you can to make the most of what you have. I know and have seen many people try to gather as much info as possible, or buy everything they’ll need to succeed, only to watch themselves not get very far. There is no special thing that everyone must have to succeed or get where you want to go; so stop spending the time, money, and energy trying to obtain those resources that aren’t going to help you. Instead use the time, money, resources, tools, opportunities, etc. that you’ve got to your advantage to propel you forward rather than losing valuable time trying to buy the next big thing. Now granted, yes there are times when you certainly need something to get you somewhere (equipment, training, etc.), BUT most of the time the other little parts come from using what you’ve already got. You see, the key isn’t to have the most, it’s to make the most of what you have.

Do what you can. Not everybody can do everything, we all have our special skills, passions, abilities, and talents. Which makes sense because if we were all the same that would be boring, there would be no uniqueness or differentiation in the world! So instead of trying to be someone else, or do something that you know you can’t do, focus your energy and time on doing what you can and being who you are. This isn’t to say that you’ll never be able to get to a certain level of doing something that you want to, it just means that in this current moment it is not attainable for you whether that be due to physical conditions, financial reasons, situational issues, etc. People often do damage to their lives by struggling and striving so hard to do something they just can’t. Instead, set your goals and end sight on that task, and do what you can right now to reach that end destination! Your situation and life is unique to you, you have special things that only you can do so do everything you can so that one day you can do what you once couldn’t or thought you couldn’t do.

I know it can be hard to do all these things because we want to plan, to have all the answers and get everything situated out. But, life isn’t always like that–in fact, it rarely is! Instead of saying you’re going to plan to do something or talking about it, just START doing it! Focus and do what you can, with what you have, right from where you are. I promise that you will be happy, successful, healthy, and living a life you love. You will be Beyoutifully Healthy!

The Importance of Attitude

Recently, I’ve been aiming to do an hour of personal development a day. I am currently reading The Happiness Equation by Neil Pasricha, and I am really enjoying it. (I will be doing a blog at the end of May with all the personal development books I’ve read and would recommend!) While I was reading the first few chapters, there was one section in particular that stood out to me–and I think it was because of a quote that was in the book. It got me thinking about attitude and just how important it can really be in our lives. I know I’ve heard/seen this quote before so it’s not new, but if you take the time to go deeper in and apply this to your own life rather than just reading it, I think it can make the world of difference for you!

As much as we would like to think we are in complete control of what happens to us, our relationships, lives, futures, etc., the truth is we just aren’t. This doesn’t mean that you can’t plan, prepare, work hard, and achieve your goals to help create the future you want. There are times that you can very well control most of what happens just by how you work and prepare. However, there are so many outside circumstances and factors that go into what actually happens to us–things that are completely out of our control. But you know what is in our control? How we react to the situation, how we handle what comes our way, how we deal with life’s moments–basically it comes down to one thing: our attitude.

So many times people will blame others for their situation or for how their lives are going–which usually leads to a pretty upset, frustrating, downcast life. But that’s their choice. If you look at life like the quote does, you’ll realize that you can’t control what happens to you, so why let it control you and your life? Only 10% of your life consists of things that happen to you, the things that you can not control. So, that means that 90% of your life consists of things that you can control. And that one thing you can control is your reaction!!

If you choose to let your circumstances control you and always react poorly no matter the situation, then you’re going to continue attracting those kinds of situations in your life. But, if you choose to stay positive and grateful, and see the joy and good things in every situation (especially the bad ones), then you will start to have a new outlook on life, a new perspective, and quite honestly a new life! It’s okay to be upset or disappointed by certain circumstances or things that happen, it’s human nature! But what’s not okay is going around blaming everything, throwing a tantrum and letting those things take over your life. You can’t control it so why let it get to you? Think of it this way: you buy a few lottery tickets just for fun. You obviously can’t control who wins the lottery, right? So if you don’t win why would you go around sulking, hating life, blaming your neighbor or your stupid boss or the fact that you could only buy 2 instead of 3 tickets, and ultimately just reacting so poorly to it? You might be a tiny bit sad, but you wouldn’t do those things right, that would be a little much! Same thing applies to daily occurrences in life! Think about that.

This is exactly why attitude is so important. You can make or break a situation or even the course of your life all just by how you react to something out of your control. Heck, even if it was something in your control, it’s just one event, one time, one thing–why let it affect and control your whole life? Instead, focus on the fact that life is mostly made up of our reactions, our responses, and our attitudes towards people, things, situations, experiences, etc. (90%!!!) Decide that you are going to have a positive attitude no matter what, try to find the good or the learning experience in every moment–that’s how you’ll grow as a person!

Rather than striving to “fix” or “change” your life/circumstances, learn to fix and change the way you react. I promise you, you will change your life for the better!

Motivation: Challenge Yourself

Consider that my first challenge group is starting up today, I thought this was the perfect quote for today’s MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY!! Plus, this can be taken and applied to just about everything in life: relationships, jobs, fitness, health, life in general, etc.

Life is not static, and neither are we. We are all constantly progressing, growing, changing, moving in our everyday lives. Some moments are bigger and show it more clearly, such as deciding on a new job or getting married. Most moments however are smaller and making little movements in our lives yet these are the things that have a BIG impact! Each and every moment–both big and small–has the ability to change us, to take us down a new path in a new direction and completely change our journey’ course. Just think about that, it may seem heavy, but isn’t it true? Every decision we make is changing us somehow in someway. So wouldn’t we want the changes to be positive? The experiences to be pleasant? Of course we would, and that can all happen if we simply choose to challenge ourselves. Now, some of you are probably thinking but if it’s too challenging, I’ll fail and that will never make me happy or have a positive impact. But it will, let me explain.

If you choose to stay in your bubble, your comfort zone then every decision you make is going to keep you right where you are; it’ll change the possibilities for your future because you don’t want to move at all. It is only when you challenge yourself, when you take that leap of faith and step outside of your comfort zone that you can truly begin to grow into who you can, want to and will become. Challenges are hard, that’s the only way they change you. Think about it in other terms. If you want your muscles to grow and change, you have to lift heavy weight that’s hard. Beautiful rocks and stones are carved and made from intense heat and heavy pressure. This is all good news for us though becsuse we constantly are facing obstacles and challenges–the only way we can go is keep pushing forward.

When you do something challenging and fail (which is going to happen because it is…well…challenging), it’s in those moments that you realize what you are capable of, you begin to grow and change as a person, and you overcome the failure!! It’s when you hit rock bottom that you realize something has to change (probably yourself and/or your attitude) and you begin working to overcome and find a new way around those obstacles to reach your goals. It’s in those defining moments, whether big or small, that you make the switch in your head to persevere and be disciplined in everything that you continue to do. I’m not saying it is easy, but if it were everybody would  do it!

Don’t be afriad to challenge yourself because you’re afriad of change!! I completely understand liking to stay in your comfortable bubble that you’re used to–I’m the same way! But what I have come to learn and teach myself is that life really does begin outside of your comfort zone. When you do something that scares you or take those challenging opportunities that come your way, bit-by-bit you are learning to persevere, overcome, and ultimately thrive! No good change came from doing the same thing over and over again, staying exactly right where you are. No. Good things come when you choose to take that step out and truly grow. Because after all…If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you!!

Motivational Monday #15

It’s time for another #MOTIVATIONALMONDAY to start your week off GREAT! Really though, you’re in control of how you start off your week, so make it how you want! Today’s quote is one of my favorites and something that really motivates me when I’m questioning what or why I am doing something!

Keeping this quote in mind can be crucial in overcoming obstacles, especially when people may not always understand or support what you are doing. Now, I’m not saying don’t have support. Of course, support from family, friends, spouses, boyfriends, etc. is a huge part of being successful. I’m just saying that sometimes they, or some random person, may even ask why you’re doing something or think you’re crazy for doing so. But the important thing to do in these situations, is check back in with yourself. Ask yourself whenever people are questioning you is, does it make me happy? Do I still love what I am doing and the progress I am making? And if the answer to those questions is “yes”, then that’s all that matters.

People often don’t understand what we are doing because they don’t understand our why behind it. They don’t see or feel our goals that we want to achieve. And because of this, especially if your goal may seem unconventional, they may question what you do or think it’s strange. Your family may think it’s strange that you measure and count your food or that you choose to eat healthy when you go out for dinner. Strangers at the store might think it’s weird that you read nutrition labels. Your friends may question why you would choose to not stay out late so that you can wake up early to get a workout in. That’s all okay.

Let them question, wonder and judge (although if your friends judge you for trying to reach your goals, you may wanna find some new friends). Because at the end of the day, it’s you who is going to experience the feeling of success. It’s you who is going to know the feeling of pride from triumphing over your obstacles and working hard. And it’s those who questioned you that are going to ask how. When you hit a new PR in the gym, when you have more energy from eating better and sleeping more, when you see more toning and definition…they’ll have nothing left to question. They’ll only be able to ask you how you did it, because they are jealous that you did.

So next time people seem to be harping on you for trying to achieve your goals or questioning your actions, just remember that while at first they’re asking why, later they’ll be asking how.  And at the end of the day, you’ll be left with amazing goals/dreams achieved, transformations completed and a feeling of pride. Because you know why you did it, you know how you did it, and you know that you most certainly, against the odds, DID IT!