The Importance of Self-Love

Growing up in this world, we were often taught to put others first, above ourselves, in all situations. This has led to the view that self-love is selfish, taboo, and just not okay. But, that is far from the truth. While yes, it is important to care about others, this does not mean you completely kick yourself, your wants and your needs to the curb in the process. If you cannot and do not love yourself, you can’t love anyone else. You may think you can, but really you are only giving from an empty tank, furthering depleting yourself. Because love sprouts from within ourselves; we cannot shine unto others if we hide our own light.

So, okay, self-love is important, but what is it? It’s going to look different for different people, but ultimately it is all about you putting yourself first, finding what uplifts you and makes you truly happy (not short-term satisfaction, but long-term joy), and then doing it. It also means loving every part of yourself, the good and the bad, and yes, even the ugly. We aren’t perfect and the more we begin to learn to love and live with our imperfections, the better off we can be. Loving yourself entails stopping and preventing any harmful behavior that is so common in today’s world, and instead focusing on accepting yourself, prioritizing your needs, and gaining a true sense of who you are and what you want. Common destructive behaviors can include: harmful self-talk, physical harm, depriving yourself of things you want/need, etc. The first place to start with self-love is to stop these and focus more on yourself–in a positive way.

Self-love can actually lead to a happier, healthier you as well. Greater self acceptance can lead to higher satisfaction in your life and create a true joy and happiness in your life. Self-compassion can help your mental health as well as your ability to reach your goals. When you have compassion on yourself, you can accept your mistakes and understand that they are going to happen. You will realize not to be so hard on yourself, leading you to continuing to reach your goals. As you can see, self-love isn’t only important to your mental and physical being, but your life and achieving true happiness as well. When you make a habit of practicing self-love, you can gain a true sense of yourself. You will learn to push past others and take care of your own needs, and in turn, find the person who you want to be. The person you can become.

Loving yourself can be the first step to becoming a new you and to finding your true happiness. This is such an important element to have in your life, no matter what! While it’s not always easy to look past your flaws, your mistakes, your failures and love yourself through it all, it is so, so worth it. In the end, you are so, so worth it. If you aren’t sure where to start, check out these ways to practice self-love.

How do you practice self-love?

Self-Care Tips and Tricks

Life is hard for all of us sometimes. As much as we would like to think that it’s not or it won’t be for us, that’s just simply not true. There’s ups and downs, highs and lows on the path of life. But, this isn’t meant to discourage you. Life can definitely be great filled with amazing wonders and smooth sailing, but it’s important to realize that everybody has hard times. This is where the importance of self-care comes in. Perhaps you do a great job of caring about others, listening to them and helping them through their issues; however, when it comes to taking care of your self…you fall flat. Sound like you? Many of us may throw the idea and phrase “self-care” around, yet very few actually do a good job of doing it. I think oftentimes we push aside the hard times, the sad feelings and try to put on a 24/7 happy face. Which is not realistic.

While it is important to show compassion and care about other people, it’s also very important to take time for yourself. This isn’t being selfish or focusing only on “me, me, me”. Instead, it is the idea of making sure that you are healthy and happy so that you can then go and make an impact helping others. After all, you can’t take care of anyone else if you don’t take care of yourself first.

I know people get busy, caught up in their job, relationships, deadlines, etc. that they forget to or neglect to take the time for themselves; however, when life just gets too hard, here are some ideas for self-care to help you out.

  1. Take a long, hot shower or bath, dress in comfy clothes and watch your favorite movie.
  2. Go for a run or to the gym or do some yoga…whatever exercise makes you feel the best.
  3. Cuddle–whether that be on the couch or a long hug, it can help!
  4. Treat yourself to your favorite food/dessert–no guilt!
  5. Curl up with a blanket and a good book and get lost for a few hours!
  6. Make a gratitude journal or list of things you are grateful for.
  7. Pray or read the bible.
  8. Go for a long walk, particularly to a scenic area if possible, to clear your head.
  9. Call a family member, relative or friend to chat about anything.
  10. Give yourself an at-home manicure or pedicure.
  11. Have a good laugh, whatever that entails for you!
  12. Do something, anything you love, and do it happily!

This is just a small list, but there are plenty of other ideas out there. Here are 64 ideas from another site I found. The most important thing in all of this is that you actually take the time (30 minutes, a few hours, a day, etc) to help yourself. Life is tough, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t be tougher and fight back by caring for number one: your beyoutiful self.

If you have any other ideas of ways that you love to do self-care, comment and share!! Hope these help!