Positive Self-Talk

We all talk to ourselves. Even if someone has called you crazy for doing so, they’ve done it too–whether they realize it or not. Every single day our mind is filled with thoughts, internal dialogue, and words that constitute self-talk. And the topic of it, plays a pretty important role in our everyday lives. It’s just like that saying “Watch your thoughts, they become your words. Watch your words, they become your actions. Watch your actions they become your habits.” And so on. Something as small as a thought (self-talk) can have a massive impact on your daily lifestyle.

As I was reading the bible, I was going through James a few days ago. James places a heavy emphasis on the message of taming the tongue, for the tongue makes great boasts, and can set the course for the whole body. It is, in a way, the entry way into the body for what we use it to speak, so we will become to live out. (see the quote above) And as humans we are quick to use the tongue for speaking evil. “With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing.” Now, it makes sense to apply to this to watching what we say externally and using our words to support, encourage, and build others up. But I think we often forget a very important person that this applies to: ourselves. You too have been made in God’s likeness and deserve to be supported, encouraged, and built up by your internal words: your self-talk.

Refer back to the earlier quote, thoughts–>words–>actions–>habits.  Now, if these thoughts are negative self-talk…imagine the impact it’s going to have on the trajectory of your life. For example, say you have the negative thought of “I can never do anything right.” You start having those thoughts more and more and pretty soon you’re speaking downgrading comments about yourself with a pessimistic view on life. Next, since you think you can’t do anything right, you stop trying and your actions reflect that. Lastly, you’ve given up, and over time that will become your new habit. All because you had some negative self-talk.

Now, look at it the other way! Despite your setbacks or failures, you keep reminding yourself that you are strong, capable, and can do anything you set your mind to. Then, you start viewing the world optimistically and getting up every time you get knocked down. Pretty soon, you’re creating resilient, confident, can-do-attitude habits. All because you had some positive self-talk.

I’ll be the first to admit, it is hard to always have positive self-talk; and I am FAR from perfect when it comes to it. I struggle, almost daily, with seeing myself, my accomplishments abilities, future, etc. in a positive light and turning my thoughts more positive. But trust me when I say that your “few thoughts” you happen to think nothing of can have a big impact on your life–both positively and negatively. So next time you find yourself having negative self-talk, remind yourself that you were made in God’s image, you deserve to be built up, not torn down with your words, and you are in control of how you talk to yourself. Make the majority of it positive, and I’m positive you’ll change your life.

Motivational Monday #14

It’s Monday, so you know what day it is right?? #MOTIVATIONALMONDAY is here again, whoo! Now, for most people out there probably dreading Mondays, you may see no reason for all this excitement. Well, I want you to change that! Right here, right now think ONE positive thought and change your mindset. Why? Because your mind is a very powerful tool, and if you constantly fill it with negative or bad thoughts and reactions, that’s all you are going to find and get out of life–and life is  just too awesome and short to live it in a “just-getting-by” state. Focus on the positive, and you’ll be amazed at what comes your way!

As crazy or unrealistic as this may seem to some, it is so true! Our mind does more than just control our body by telling it what to do. Our mind controls our thoughts, words, actions, choices…it controls almost every aspect of our lives. So, why wouldn’t you want to fill it with the best possible thing–positivity? It’s like buying a fancy, expensive car and putting cheap watery gas in it or an olympic athlete eating french fries and donuts rights before their next game, race, etc. If you want the best output (which I assume most people would like for themselves), then you have to put in the best input!

I know that positivity isn’t always the easiest or most convenient thing. I know it’s easier to complain and be negative at times, but that’s doing more damage to you and those around you than using the extra effort to change your thoughts, tell yourself positive things and live it out! Because once your mind is filled with positivity, it’s going to start making choices and living life in that same manner. No matter what your goal is in life, there are going to be roadblocks and obstacles that you face. If you come at them with a negative mindset, you’re most likely going to quit or give up on your dream. But, it’s when you have that positive mindset, that you can actually  begin to grow and change as a person; you can reach your goals see your life start to change. Now, I don’t know about y’all, but I would kind of like to see my life change for the better–into what I want it to be. The only way to do this is to start putting in the work to fill your mind with positive thoughts.

Think about it, let’s just say your goal is to gain muscle by going to the gym. If you constantly think I’m not good enough, I’m not seeing results, I’m weak, etc. then when you’re at the gym you’re just going to be going through the motions not really trying hard. That is if you even make it to the gym at all. Your actions here are definitely not going to get you what you want, putting you back where you started and very, very defeated. Now, imagine if you filled your mind with positive thoughts such as, I can do this, I’m getting stronger, It’s tough, but I’m tougher, I’m doing this to become better and I will, etc., then you’re most likely going to put in the time, effort and training that you need, and therefore, see results!

This may seem crazy, but it;s simple! When you start to realize and understand just how powerful a tool our mind is, you can start using it to your benefit! By filling it with positive thoughts and messages, your mind will then control your body in such a way that means you will go out and start changing your life. And maybe even those around you. Just remember that no matter what situation you’re in or where life takes you or how close/far you are to your goals, fill your mind with positivity. I promise you that when your mind is filled with positivity, you’ll start spreading joy and cheer and positivity around you, and you will start to see those results and good things come.

You will start to see your life change–all because you changed your mindset and fed your mind positive thoughts. Now, that’s powerful!