Positive Self-Talk

We all talk to ourselves. Even if someone has called you crazy for doing so, they’ve done it too–whether they realize it or not. Every single day our mind is filled with thoughts, internal dialogue, and words that constitute self-talk. And the topic of it, plays a pretty important role in our everyday lives. It’s just like that saying “Watch your thoughts, they become your words. Watch your words, they become your actions. Watch your actions they become your habits.” And so on. Something as small as a thought (self-talk) can have a massive impact on your daily lifestyle.

As I was reading the bible, I was going through James a few days ago. James places a heavy emphasis on the message of taming the tongue, for the tongue makes great boasts, and can set the course for the whole body. It is, in a way, the entry way into the body for what we use it to speak, so we will become to live out. (see the quote above) And as humans we are quick to use the tongue for speaking evil. “With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing.” Now, it makes sense to apply to this to watching what we say externally and using our words to support, encourage, and build others up. But I think we often forget a very important person that this applies to: ourselves. You too have been made in God’s likeness and deserve to be supported, encouraged, and built up by your internal words: your self-talk.

Refer back to the earlier quote, thoughts–>words–>actions–>habits.  Now, if these thoughts are negative self-talk…imagine the impact it’s going to have on the trajectory of your life. For example, say you have the negative thought of “I can never do anything right.” You start having those thoughts more and more and pretty soon you’re speaking downgrading comments about yourself with a pessimistic view on life. Next, since you think you can’t do anything right, you stop trying and your actions reflect that. Lastly, you’ve given up, and over time that will become your new habit. All because you had some negative self-talk.

Now, look at it the other way! Despite your setbacks or failures, you keep reminding yourself that you are strong, capable, and can do anything you set your mind to. Then, you start viewing the world optimistically and getting up every time you get knocked down. Pretty soon, you’re creating resilient, confident, can-do-attitude habits. All because you had some positive self-talk.

I’ll be the first to admit, it is hard to always have positive self-talk; and I am FAR from perfect when it comes to it. I struggle, almost daily, with seeing myself, my accomplishments abilities, future, etc. in a positive light and turning my thoughts more positive. But trust me when I say that your “few thoughts” you happen to think nothing of can have a big impact on your life–both positively and negatively. So next time you find yourself having negative self-talk, remind yourself that you were made in God’s image, you deserve to be built up, not torn down with your words, and you are in control of how you talk to yourself. Make the majority of it positive, and I’m positive you’ll change your life.

Motivational Monday #14

It’s Monday, so you know what day it is right?? #MOTIVATIONALMONDAY is here again, whoo! Now, for most people out there probably dreading Mondays, you may see no reason for all this excitement. Well, I want you to change that! Right here, right now think ONE positive thought and change your mindset. Why? Because your mind is a very powerful tool, and if you constantly fill it with negative or bad thoughts and reactions, that’s all you are going to find and get out of life–and life is  just too awesome and short to live it in a “just-getting-by” state. Focus on the positive, and you’ll be amazed at what comes your way!

As crazy or unrealistic as this may seem to some, it is so true! Our mind does more than just control our body by telling it what to do. Our mind controls our thoughts, words, actions, choices…it controls almost every aspect of our lives. So, why wouldn’t you want to fill it with the best possible thing–positivity? It’s like buying a fancy, expensive car and putting cheap watery gas in it or an olympic athlete eating french fries and donuts rights before their next game, race, etc. If you want the best output (which I assume most people would like for themselves), then you have to put in the best input!

I know that positivity isn’t always the easiest or most convenient thing. I know it’s easier to complain and be negative at times, but that’s doing more damage to you and those around you than using the extra effort to change your thoughts, tell yourself positive things and live it out! Because once your mind is filled with positivity, it’s going to start making choices and living life in that same manner. No matter what your goal is in life, there are going to be roadblocks and obstacles that you face. If you come at them with a negative mindset, you’re most likely going to quit or give up on your dream. But, it’s when you have that positive mindset, that you can actually  begin to grow and change as a person; you can reach your goals see your life start to change. Now, I don’t know about y’all, but I would kind of like to see my life change for the better–into what I want it to be. The only way to do this is to start putting in the work to fill your mind with positive thoughts.

Think about it, let’s just say your goal is to gain muscle by going to the gym. If you constantly think I’m not good enough, I’m not seeing results, I’m weak, etc. then when you’re at the gym you’re just going to be going through the motions not really trying hard. That is if you even make it to the gym at all. Your actions here are definitely not going to get you what you want, putting you back where you started and very, very defeated. Now, imagine if you filled your mind with positive thoughts such as, I can do this, I’m getting stronger, It’s tough, but I’m tougher, I’m doing this to become better and I will, etc., then you’re most likely going to put in the time, effort and training that you need, and therefore, see results!

This may seem crazy, but it;s simple! When you start to realize and understand just how powerful a tool our mind is, you can start using it to your benefit! By filling it with positive thoughts and messages, your mind will then control your body in such a way that means you will go out and start changing your life. And maybe even those around you. Just remember that no matter what situation you’re in or where life takes you or how close/far you are to your goals, fill your mind with positivity. I promise you that when your mind is filled with positivity, you’ll start spreading joy and cheer and positivity around you, and you will start to see those results and good things come.

You will start to see your life change–all because you changed your mindset and fed your mind positive thoughts. Now, that’s powerful!

Power of Positivity

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I know it’s been a while since my last post–thanksgiving break got the best of me. But it was a great time filled with traveling, relaxing and family time so I can’t complain. During this time of year, many people get in the thankful mindset and I certainly was over this past week, which got me thinking about a great blog topic I wanted to write about. It goes right along with the thankful/cheerful/grateful/happy mood that seems to linger around the holiday season. It’s called positive thinking. Now, I know you may be thinking this is corny or cheesy; however, positive thinking really can a powerful tool in your life. Whatever comes your way, whether small or big, going at it with a positive mindset can be a great aspect of living a healthy, happy life that you love. There really is such thing as the power of positivity.

Positive thinking is a way of life, an attitude that we adopt. It can affect our whole being from bringing more happy feelings, cheer and energy to putting us in good health. Thinking positively can affect the way we behave, perform and tackle all of life’s situations. For example, when heading into an interview or other big event, feeling confident and thinking good thoughts can actually cause you to feel and be more prepared and ace the event better than if you had thought and believed negative ideas. Barbara Fredrickson, a positive psychology researcher, has done studies on the affects on the brain of positive vs. negative thoughts. Negativity closes your brain off and focuses on the negative feeling while preventing your brain from seeing your other options and choices around you. Meanwhile positive thinking broadens your sense of possibilities and opens your mind, which allows you to build new skills and resources that can provide value in other areas of your life. It’s clear here that your thoughts can have a much bigger effect on your mind, brain, health, etc. than you may have thought.

So, now that you know just how important positive thinking can be, how do you make it happen? This can certainly look different in individual lives. I believe the one key area where people see negativity is towards themselves, their body, their ability, their own lives, etc. It’s really easy for us to be negative towards ourselves…thinking we cannot accomplish anything, we have no skills, we hate they way we look…the list can go on and on. However, if you asked someone to go and say these things to their friend or a stranger, most people who would be horrified to do so. So why is it that we would never be down on or negative towards another, but we can so easily do so to ourselves? It’s probably due to the fact that we set goals and expectations for ourselves and since we are not perfect, we will inevitably fail and make mistakes. In this area, the biggest thing is to try and think more positively about yourself and your life and to love yourself. Body positivity can be especially difficult in today’s time and it shouldn’t be! We should all love ourselves for who and what we are and yet that is such a difficult task for many (guilty!). I think the first main step towards being positive is to be mindful of your thoughts. Some people may be more negative than they realized or perhaps more positive than they thought. By paying attention to and trying to catch any negative thoughts, you can start implementing a more positive outlook.

The next thing that can really help is affirmations. Write down 3-4 affirmations and stick them somewhere that you’ll see every single day (hopefully even multiple times per day). This could be your fridge, your car dashboard, your mirror, your door, etc. Every morning start your day off by repeating these affirmations to yourself and then every time you pass by them, repeat them in your head. Example of this could include: I am smart, I can handle any task thrown my way, I am strong, I am capable, I am bigger than my thoughts, etc. One big thing to combat the area of negativity towards loving yourself and your body is to find things you like about yourself. Yes, much easier said than done I know. However, next time you look in the mirror really try to find 3-4 things you like about yourself and says those out loud–even write them down if that would help! Negative thoughts may creep in, but by repeating and thinking those positive thoughts, they soon will become a habit and part of your everyday life.

Lastly, I want to finish by saying that I know first-hand that being and staying positive is no easy task. There are those times when nothing seems to be going your way or it seems like you cannot do a single thing right–the future seems bleak and bare. I used to be really bad at viewing the world in that way and I was what some might call a “pessimist”. But, nowadays I am a lot more positive when thinking about my future and my life in general. Don’t get me wrong, I, nor anyone else I believe, can be fully 100% positive. Yes…not even those people who seem to have their whole life together on social media and in real life and whose smile never falters from their face. At some point or some time, perhaps in private, they too struggle with positivity. It’s human nature because we aren’t perfect and we do make mistakes. But, if you go about life with a positive mindset and think positive thoughts, then even when bad things do come your way you can help yourself be better off in those situations. There is a quote by Charles Swindoll that I really like: “Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” This isn’t to say you can never be negative or unhappy or upset; it’s simply saying that being mindful of your thoughts and mindset throughout the day and aiming them towards good ones can lead you to experiencing the power of positivity in your life. And that helps you love yourself–living a life that you enjoy and staying Beyoutifully Healthy!

Here are other links to great articles about positive thinking:

https://www.powerofpositivity.com/using-power-positivity-actually-changes-world-around/

http://www.successconsciousness.com/index_000009.htm

What are your thoughts on being positive? What are some ways you stay positive?

 

Source: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/james-clear/positive-thinking_b_3512202.html